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It is normal to have mixed feelings about having sex with someone else. Being in a sexual relationship can be very rewarding and enjoyable but there are important considerations. A sexual relationship is going to have an impact on many parts of your life. Sex is a physical way to express love and affection for someone, although it is sometimes depicted in the media as something casual and without consequences.
If you are thinking about having sex with someone it is important to talk about sex together, so that you can both work out if you want to begin a sexual relationship. Talk about your expectations, and what you expect from the other person. Having sex is a mutual decision between two people who care about each other. Before you put yourself into a situation where sex may occur you need to: - decide whether this is the right decision for you, the right time and with the right person.
- consider your contraceptive options and visit your local doctor or family planning clinic to arrange this.
- be aware of the risks of sexually transmitted diseases and organise suitable protection. It is always a good idea to engage in 'safe sex' to protect yourself from catching a sexually transmitted infection such as HIV/AIDS, herpes, chlamydia or gonorrhoea. Using condoms with water-based lubricants and dental dams is one way to protect yourself from some of these diseases.
- ensure that your decision is a valid one made without undue influence from your prospective sexual partner, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Having a partner who is ready for sex is not a good reason for you to have sex. If you are unsure then you may not be ready.
In 1995, an Australian study found that: - 83 per cent of young people aged 15-24 years who responded to the survey had had sexual intercourse, 58% of 15 year olds having some sexual experience and the median age of first sexual intercourse being 16 years.
- conversely, there were still 25% of 17 year olds with no sexual experience and 9% of 20 year olds who had not had intercourse.
- those who lost their virginity at later ages were more inclined to have completed their high school education and those who lost their virginity at an early age were more likely to have left school before the end of Year 10.
A decision about having sex should never be made in the belief that everyone else is doing it. Kids Help Line, a confidential telephone counselling service, receives about 7,000 calls each year from young people who want to talk about sex issues. About 27 per cent of these callers state they are unsure about beginning a sexual relationship. Where to call if you need help: - Family Planning Clinics have centres for young people who need further information or advice. Their services include contraception, pregnancy testing and counselling, HIV/AIDS testing and pap smears. If you decide to become sexually active, young women will eventually need to have a regular Pap smear.
- your local or family GP can provide advice about relationships, contraception, and sexually transmitted diseases in a relaxed and confidential consultation.
- Kids Help Line Tel. 1800 551 800
- Lifeline Tel. 131 114
- Don't forget your parents if you feel comfortable broaching the subject with them. They have been watching you grow up and realise you are becoming a young adult. They might be as nervous as you about bringing up the subject of sex.
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