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All animals show a tendency to be aggressive at times, and human beings are no exception to the rule. It is important to understand the difference between assertive and aggressive behaviour. To be assertive means standing up for yourself in an appropriate way. It is taking care of your own needs without hurting other people. Aggressive behaviour goes on the attack, verbally or physically, without consideration for the needs or rights of others.
Parents are often frightened by how aggressive small children can be when they feel confused or threatened. This may occur with a new baby in the house. Older children may threaten to hurt or kill the baby. These statements should be taken seriously, to the extent of keeping a close eye on the children. But in most cases, reassurance of the parents' love for the older child will help the problem disappear. As children grow older, most learn to curb their aggressive behaviour. Some of the children who do not, have physical problems that contribute to this, such as foetal alcohol syndrome. Many times, environment is a factor. A child may imitate physical or verbal abuse seen within the family. Some research suggests that exposure to violent television shows and violent movies may teach children that violence is acceptable. Two particular DANGER SIGNS in children and adolescents are: - fire-setting and
- torturing or killing animals
If your child shows either of these signs, seek professional help immediately. Repeated incidents of fighting at school and gang membership are also danger signals. Ask your doctor for a referral, or contact a school counsellor for suggestions on how and where to obtain help. Adolescents and adults who commit aggressive acts tend to have a history of violent behaviour. This may be due to physical or environmental factors, or both. People are also more likely to commit violent acts when under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Experts estimate that at least 80 percent of all rapes occur when either the rapist or the victim is under the influence of alcohol. When someone who has never been violent before suddenly shows a tendency to be aggressive, it is possible that it is due to physical factors. A problem with the brain or nervous system may be involved. Contact your doctor for a full physical examination. Article #6701 Copyright (c) 2002 McKesson. All Rights Reserved. |
